We all have “tear your hair out” moments from time to time. This is one of mine. Picture this…
At the time I was working full time, a single parent of a teenage daughter, teaching a professional conflict resolution course and stressed out of my mind.
I had spent considerable time on my one day off cooking chicken stock so a friend could use it (very kindly) to make soup for me to help ease my load.
I was most grateful and loaded the cooled stock pot into the back seat of my car, using the seat belt to strap it in place.
After my old, very placid dog Miffy had curled up in her usual travelling spot, I set out on my delivery. I was about half way there when I heard an unusual sound from the back seat, followed by the strong smell of chicken. I stopped by the side of the busy road and opened the back door to discover that my usually laid-back dog had become curious about her travelling companion and had managed to spill the entire contents all over the seat.
With visions of driving a rancid-chicken-stock-smelling car for the rest of my life I totally lost it.
I yelled, jumped up and down and generally had a full on tantrum in full view of the passing traffic.
It was some time later that I realised that any one of my conflict resolution students could have seen their ‘calm, rational’, mediation teacher at her best!!!
When we have a “tear your hair out” moment, it doesn’t usually show us at our best. Having some techniques to deal with the situation can be really useful, so we don’t look so silly to passers-by.